- Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (via eloquence)28530 notes
Finally getting a date, then hoping like hell they don’t actually like you because it’ll just be easier. Then, when they don’t like you, you wonder why the hell they didn’t like you. Also, the awkward silence that follows when someone asks about your interests.
still coming to terms with the fact that this isn’t normal43 notes
“Binge drinking is a symbolic proxy for high status in college,” said study co-author Carolyn Hsu, an associate professor of sociology at Colgate University in a statement, noting that it’s what the wealthy, powerful and happy students on campus do.
Low-status students in turn reported being happier if they binged than if they didn’t. Indeed, alcohol seemed to be the great social equalizer, bringing members of low-status groups to happiness levels similar to those of greater social power if they binged. “Students in all groups consistently liked college more when they participated in the campus’ binge drinking culture,” Hsu said. Since the study has not yet been subjected to peer review, its findings should be considered preliminary."
why finding meaning > pursuit of happiness0 notes
- Lisa Johnson on her BPD10 notes
It has been noted that some features of Avoidance extend
into areas where the individual will fear intimate and sexual
contact even when attracted to the other person. They may
allow themselves to admire and have feelings from a distance
as long as the other person doesn’t know. This is sometimes
termed as “unrequited love.”
It has been said that Avoidant Personality Disorder is a chronic
condition of self-loathing through self deprivation and in
essence much of this behavior has become a comfortable
but lethal habit where relationships are concerned.
Some with intimacy intolerance are addicted to the “thought
of love and romance” but once faced with the prospect will
pull away. Others may be addicted to porn and or fantasy
which on every inhabitable level will most certainly add an
even heavier layer of distancing to any viable relationship
the Avoidant encounters.